1 Peter 3:1

1 Peter 3:1

1 “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives…”

Like with young people submitting to elders so do wives need to submit to their husbands. It is not to say that you will be waiting on him hand and foot, but rather that you respect him as the head of the household and decision maker for the family. As a wife you have to balance both allowing your husband to be the head but also be involved in the decision in some form without you running him and handicapping him as a man.

This is a tough topic speak about, no matter how many times I have spoken about this before. I see some couples struggle to compromise with each other in their marriage when they have been influenced by the world’s idea that you have to independent and be strong enough to enforce your own rules and not settle…unfortunately that isn’t realistic in a successful marriage, which is why so many marriages today fail and a short period of time.

We are not to be independent…think about it, what good is it to be independent? Can you get everything you need and want without the help of others? Without God? 

In a marriage their has to be mutual respect amongst other things, but respect is what will allow the wives to be less concerned with getting their point across when they know their husband has the same point or interest already but just want to get their voice heard. Even if the husband makes the wrong decision in something, with their wives who gave them the room to make the decision will cover their mistakes because their wife did what they were supposed to do as partner and did not cause strife or push him into the decision.