Single

As a young women we are constantly bombarded with sex, sexuality and relationships to the point that if we aren’t sexually active, in a relationship or identify as anything other than straight, we are instantly pushed out of the “inner circle” and labeled as weird, losers or liars.

It’s sad that when women say that they are a virgin they are instantly accused of lying or looked at as if they have two heads. As time has gone on sex has gotten more and more prevalent than ever before; children are having to be educated about safe sex at a much younger age, in most cases at the age of 9 years old.

When did being a virgin become so antiquated?

Although, there’s a flip side to the acceptance of sex; one can not have too much sex or they’re considered to be freaks or addicts or they are have/having sex with too many partners. Oh, and don’t forget it’s also bad if you are sleeping with the person on the first date!

It’s funny how there is “morality clauses” within immoral practices. So one can have premarital sex with ONLY a few people, but they have to be beyond the first or possibly second date (unless they’re famous or attractive to everyone), and can’t have too much sex unless you want someone to label you a freak.  And if you’re single you are expected to date because “it’s only normal” to do, but if you’re single and rather wait for the right one or pray about possibly going out with someone, they are looked at as a “weird Jesus freak” or a “prude”.

I have learned that not everyone has to feel like they have to keep up with the pace of those who are constantly going out with someone and sleeping with random people that they think are cute or nice or “just for fun”. Go at your own pace, pray about it, pray for your future spouse, not just a boyfriend or girlfriend but someone that you can spend your life with.

You are not condemned if you have already had sex and lived life like your friends, but now is the time to make that shift from casual sex and down grading the idea of saving yourself; and start being mindful of who you let get close to you and abstain.