Marriage

Marriage

Why is it that so many people stay in relationships for long periods of time or have children, but don’t get married? Why is it so prevalent amongst my generation in general? I have actually been wondering this for a little over a decade now, but never cared enough to spend time thinking about it.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

New King James Version (NKJV)

The Value of a Friend

⁹ Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
¹⁰ For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.
¹¹ Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
But how can one be warm alone?
¹² Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

I am surprised at how my generation has almost completely diminished the sanctity and importance of marriage. There isn’t a week that goes by that I don’t hear someone say “why get married you’re already with the person.” Or “If you get married you’ll end up in divorce .” When I hear all of this it makes me frustrated because I believe marriage is an important and beautiful commitment that anyone can make, of course after getting saved.

If you are one of those who think that marriage is a set up for divorce, think about your relationships, how many times have you broken up with someone whether you are still with the person or not…now replace the word ‘breakup’ with ‘divorce’. Isn’t divorce a separation of two people? Well then technically you’ve been divorced several times over, so why not get married? What’s the worst that can happen…you breakup with the person.

If divorce/separation is your biggest fear, then make better mate decisions! No relationship is ever going to be perfect so stop thinking that marriage is only for those who ‘think’ they have a perfect relationship or were trapped into getting married.

Ephesians 5:25-29

New King James Version (NKJV)

²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, ²⁶ that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, ²⁷ that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. ²⁸ So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. ²⁹ For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

Commitment is necessary in life and in Christ. You can’t run away from marriage forever, you will have to choose to be equally yolked with someone or be in and out of relationships like you did in elementary school.